MARRIAGE – Love pledge or actual Agreement?

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… To have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish until death do us part!

When & Why was this institution created?

 History takes us about 4,350 years back in time. Thousands years before that, most anthropologists believe that families consisted of loosely organized groups of around 30 people, with several male leaders, multiply women shared by them, and children. The first recorded evidence of marriage, consisted of one woman and one man, dates from 2350 B.C. in Mesopotamia.

The primary purpose of the marriage was to bind women and men, and guarantee that a man’s children were truly his biological heirs. Through marriage, a woman became a man’s property. In ancient Greece, the father handed over his daughter with the following words: “I pledge my daughter for the purpose of producing legitimate offspring.”

Ancient Hebrew men were free to take several wives, while married Greeks and Romans were free to satisfy their sexual urges with prostitutes, concubines and even teenage male lovers, while their wives were required to stay at home. If wives were not able to produce offspring, their husbands could give them back and also marry someone else.

But enough history; Let’s see what the situation nowadays is.

Is marriage that small piece of paper, or the word in front of God; or is it that “simple” promise that we make that we’ll love and cherish one another? If marriage was created to bond two people in a non-breaking -till death do apart- institution, then how did divorce get in the picture?

Don’t get me started with the prenuptial agreements! If you, when you, and so on.. Don’t you dare do that or else! Looks like a mighty paper to me.

The anthropological handbook Notes and Queries (1951) defined marriage as “a union between a man and a woman such that children born to the woman are the recognized legitimate offspring of both partners.”

In your opinion, is MARRIAGE a Love institution or bonding obligation for the father figure?

P.s. Maybe the saying should change to … till divorce do us apart   :-D

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